ខ្លួនគាត់ជាអ្នកចិត្តសាស្រ្ត - តើនេះអាចទៅរួចទេ?

“Why do we need these psychologists?” Indeed, why on earth should we share our most personal, most intimate secrets with a stranger, and even pay him for it, when the bookshelves are littered with bestsellers promising us to «discover our true self» or «get rid of hidden psychological problems» ? Isn’t it possible, having prepared well, to help yourself?

វាមិនងាយស្រួលប៉ុន្មានទេ អ្នកវិភាគចិត្តសាស្ត្រ Gerard Bonnet ធ្វើឱ្យយើងមានភាពអំនត់ថា៖ «កុំសង្ឃឹមថានឹងក្លាយជាអ្នកចិត្តសាស្រ្តផ្ទាល់ខ្លួនរបស់អ្នក ព្រោះសម្រាប់មុខតំណែងនេះ អ្នកត្រូវឃ្លាតឆ្ងាយពីខ្លួនអ្នក ដែលពិបាកធ្វើណាស់។ ប៉ុន្តែវាពិតជាអាចទៅរួចក្នុងការអនុវត្តការងារឯករាជ្យ ប្រសិនបើអ្នកយល់ព្រមដោះលែងអ្នកសន្លប់ ហើយធ្វើការជាមួយសញ្ញាដែលវាផ្តល់ឱ្យ។ តើត្រូវធ្វើដូចម្តេច?

រកមើលរោគសញ្ញា

This technique underlies all psychoanalysis. It was starting from introspection, or rather, from one of his dreams, which went down in history under the name «Dream about the injection of Irma», Sigmund Freud in July 1895 brought out his theory of dreams.

We can perfectly use this technique and apply it to ourselves, using all the symptoms that the unconscious reveals to us: not only dreams, but also things that we forgot to do, slips of the tongue, slips of the tongue, slips of the tongue, slips of the tongue, strange occurrences — everything that happens to us quite often.

“You need to regularly dedicate a certain time to this,” says Gerard Bonnet. — At least 3-4 times a week, best of all in the morning, barely waking up, we should remember the previous day, paying special attention to dreams, omissions, episodes that seemed strange. It is better to record in a diary everything that happens in the most free manner, thinking about associations and not worrying about style or any kind of coherence. Then we can go to work so that in the evening or the next day in the morning we can return to what we have written and calmly reflect on it in order to see the connection and meaning of events more clearly.

Between the ages of 20 and 30, Leon, now 38, began carefully writing down his dreams in a notebook, and then adding to them the free associations he had. “At the age of 26, something extraordinary happened to me,” he says. — I tried several times to pass the driver’s license test, and all in vain. And then one night I dreamed that I was flying along the highway in a red car and overtaking someone. Having overtaken for the second time, I felt extraordinary bliss! I woke up with this sweet feeling. With an incredibly clear image in my head, I told myself that I could do it. As if my unconscious gave me an order. And a few months later, I was actually driving a red car!”

What happened? What «click» caused such a change? This time it did not even require complex interpretation or symbolic analysis of the dreams, since Leon was satisfied with the simplest, most superficial explanation that he gave himself.

ការដោះលែងដោយឥតគិតថ្លៃគឺសំខាន់ជាងការស្វែងរកការពន្យល់

Often we are driven by a strong desire to clarify our actions, mistakes, dreams. Many psychologists consider this a mistake. This is not always necessary. Sometimes it is enough to get rid of the image, to «expel» it without trying to explain it, and the symptom disappears. Change does not happen because we think we have figured ourselves out.

ចំនុចនោះគឺមិនត្រូវបកស្រាយឲ្យបានច្បាស់លាស់នូវសញ្ញានៃសន្លប់នោះទេ វាសំខាន់ជាងក្នុងការដោះលែងវាពីរូបភាពទាំងនោះដែលកើតឡើងឥតឈប់ឈរនៅក្នុងក្បាលរបស់យើង។ សេចក្តីប្រាថ្នាដោយមិនដឹងខ្លួនរបស់យើងគ្រាន់តែចង់ឮប៉ុណ្ណោះ។ វាបញ្ជាយើងដោយគ្មានចំណេះដឹងរបស់យើងនៅពេលដែលវាចង់ផ្ញើសារទៅកាន់មនសិការរបស់យើង។

Marianne អាយុ 40 ឆ្នាំបានជឿជាក់ជាយូរមកហើយថាការភ័យខ្លាចនៅពេលយប់របស់នាងនិងស្នេហាដែលមិនសប្បាយចិត្តគឺជាលទ្ធផលនៃទំនាក់ទំនងដ៏លំបាកជាមួយឪពុករបស់នាងដែលអវត្តមានរបស់នាង: "ខ្ញុំបានមើលអ្វីគ្រប់យ៉ាងតាមរយៈ prism នៃទំនាក់ទំនងទាំងនេះហើយបានបង្កើតទំនាក់ទំនង neurotic ដូចគ្នាជាមួយ "មិនសមរម្យ" ។ "បុរស។ ហើយបន្ទាប់មកថ្ងៃមួយ ខ្ញុំបានសុបិនថា ជីដូនជីតារបស់ខ្ញុំ ដែលខ្ញុំរស់នៅជាមួយខ្ញុំ កាលនៅក្មេង លើកដៃរបស់គាត់មករកខ្ញុំ ហើយយំ។ នៅពេលព្រឹក នៅពេលដែលខ្ញុំកំពុងសរសេរសុបិននោះ រូបភាពនៃទំនាក់ទំនងដ៏ស្មុគ្រស្មាញរបស់យើងជាមួយនាង ស្រាប់តែក្លាយជាការពិតសម្រាប់ខ្ញុំ។ មិនមានអ្វីត្រូវយល់ទេ។ វា​ជា​រលក​ដែល​ហក់​ចេញ​ពី​ខាងក្នុង ដែល​ដំបូង​បាន​គ្រប​សង្កត់​ខ្ញុំ ហើយ​បន្ទាប់​មក​បាន​ដោះលែង​ខ្ញុំ។

It is useless to torment ourselves, asking ourselves whether our explanation fits this or that of our manifestation. “Freud was at first completely concentrated on the interpretation of dreams, and in the end he came to the conclusion that only the free expression of ideas is important,” remarks Gérard Bonnet. He believes that well-conducted introspection should lead to positive results. «Our mind is freed, we can get rid of a lot of symptoms, such as obsessive-compulsive behavior that affects our relationships with other people.»

Introspection មានដែនកំណត់

ប៉ុន្តែលំហាត់នេះមានដែនកំណត់របស់វា។ អ្នកចិត្តសាស្រ្ត Alain Vanier ជឿជាក់ថា មនុស្សម្នាក់មិនគួរចូលជ្រៅទៅក្នុងខ្លួនពេកទេ៖ “យើងនឹងជួបឧបសគ្គយ៉ាងឆាប់រហ័ស និងដោយភាពព្រងើយកន្តើយពីខ្លួនយើង។ នៅក្នុង psychoanalysis យើងចាប់ផ្តើមពីការត្អូញត្អែរ ហើយការព្យាបាលគឺដើម្បីដឹកនាំយើងទៅកន្លែងដែលវាឈឺ ត្រង់កន្លែងដែលយើងបានបង្កើតរបាំងការពារ មិនដែលមើលទៅទីនោះ។ នេះ​ជា​ចំណុច​សំខាន់​នៃ​បញ្ហា»។

What is hidden in the very depths of the unconscious, what is its core? — this is exactly what our consciousness, our own «I» does not dare to face: a zone of suffering repressed in childhood, inexpressible for each of us, even for those whom life has only spoiled since then. How can you bear to go and examine your wounds, open them, touch them, press on the sore spots that we have hidden under the veil of neuroses, strange habits or delusions?

“Face to face with ourselves, we try not to see those oddities that can take us by surprise: amazing slips of the tongue, mysterious dreams. We will always find a reason not to see this — any reason will be good for this. That is why the role of a psychotherapist or psychoanalyst is so important: they help us overcome our own internal boundaries, to do what we cannot do alone, ”concludes Alain Vanier. “On the other hand,” adds Gerard Bonnet, “if we engage in introspection before, during, or even after a course of therapy, its effectiveness will be many times greater.” So self-help and a course of psychotherapy do not exclude each other, but expand our ability to work on ourselves.