Why is it so difficult for some of us to find a life partner? Perhaps the point is excessive sensitivity, which interferes with us and our loved ones? We share some practical tips that will help sensitive people find mutual understanding with a partner.
Do you like to go to the movies and go on vacation alone? Do you need your own space even in the bedroom?
“During my practice, I met a lot of people with a high level of sensitivity — emotional empaths who experience difficulties in intimate relationships,” says psychologist Judith Orloff. “These are kind, decent, sincere people who want to find their soul mate, but at the same time remain lonely for years.”
In a state of love, we plunge into a sense of unity and closeness with a partner and draw strength from this, but for empaths, too intense connection, without the opportunity to retire — and this is how they restore strength — is extremely difficult.
This does not mean that they love less. On the contrary, they understand their loved ones without words and live with them all the nuances of their experiences.
Figuratively speaking, these people seem to touch the object with fifty fingers, while everyone else needs only five. Therefore, they need more time to restore internal balance.
Many of them fear that they will be misunderstood by a loved one. Indeed, the increased need for a separate space is sometimes read by others as detachment and disinterest in relationships.
And this misunderstanding is a disaster both for them and for their potential partners. How can sensitive people learn to build relationships?
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Be honest and explain that you often need privacy. When you turn off your phone and temporarily leave the field of communication, this is nothing personal. This is due to the peculiarities of your nature, and your partner is just as dear to you at these moments. Your attitude towards him is unchanged.
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Empathic people cannot always sleep in the same bed with a partner. And again, nothing personal: they just extremely important their space at night. Otherwise, they will not get enough sleep and a joint dream with a loved one will turn into torture. Talk honestly about it with your partner and discuss your options.
Territory of silence
The decision to live together is a serious step that tests the strength of many unions. Especially if one of the partners so badly needs its territory. Think about where you could be alone and discuss it with your partner.
Perhaps you would like to “disappear” in a private room or garage from time to time.
If the space of the apartment is small, this can be your table, separated by a screen. When there is no such place, retire to the bathroom. Turn on the water and give yourself time — even five to ten minutes will help restore strength. It is important that the partner accepts this desire of yours without offense.
While traveling
People are often surprised that someone chooses to travel alone. Most people like to share impressions and experiences with someone. Self-drivers often turn out to be emotional empaths. Traveling together, when another person is nearby for 24 hours, even if they are dearly loved, becomes a test for them.
Try to discuss this with your partner so that he does not hold a grudge against you if one day you want to have breakfast alone. Or do not keep him company on one of the excursions. In couples where these psychological characteristics are respected, happy and long-term relationships are created.